tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.comments2013-03-10T14:41:55.534-07:00The Parent Life - This Side of the FenceDarlene Steelman McGarrityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14276345723955344662noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-52181983152714755702013-03-10T14:41:55.534-07:002013-03-10T14:41:55.534-07:00That is great information for teenager fostering c...That is great information for teenager fostering children. Great information for me. I will back again.<br /><a href="www.fosteringtransferagent.co.uk" rel="nofollow">fostering allowance</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12550008703657380817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-3303504003441546252012-03-11T13:16:37.220-07:002012-03-11T13:16:37.220-07:00Gosh, if only we had answers to such questions, Di...Gosh, if only we had answers to such questions, Diane. :) I am almost a year older than my sister (we are 11 mos, 26 days apart)... I hope you were able to get all that stuff out of you? Sometimes it is dangerous to hold stuff in.. :(Darlene Steelman McGarrityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14276345723955344662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-58554274091934450092012-03-11T13:16:23.571-07:002012-03-11T13:16:23.571-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Darlene Steelman McGarrityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14276345723955344662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-90708126723718584912012-03-11T13:03:25.942-07:002012-03-11T13:03:25.942-07:00Having a sister who is 11 months older than me, I ...Having a sister who is 11 months older than me, I didn't get nearly the attention I thought I deserved. I kept quiet about my dilemma and let this simmer inside me for most of my adult life. But now, with my daughter (17), I find that sharing with her gains me the attention I so craved back then, but I get to be the expert and she comes to me only when she has a problem. <br /><br />How did that happen, I ask myself?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15901684621715980573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-84384701090983401842012-03-08T19:07:55.700-08:002012-03-08T19:07:55.700-08:00Morgan, thank you so much for stopping by and shar...Morgan, thank you so much for stopping by and sharing part of your story. I am so sorry about your brother.. :( Hopefully you will be able to one day find tools to help you cope with your sister's behavior since you can't change her. <br />Changing people is one of the things I had such a difficult time realizing I could never do! <br /><br />I am sorry you have a lot of anger issues. If you ever need to chat or talk about anything, look me up! <br /><br />And thanks again for sharing.. :)Darlene Steelman McGarrityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14276345723955344662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-39322838239588469582012-03-08T15:13:07.699-08:002012-03-08T15:13:07.699-08:00I am glad you and your daughter have been reunited...I am glad you and your daughter have been reunited. I know it must be hard and sweet at the same time.<br /><br />I have to reiterate what Rumpydog said about making amends. If you asked my mother she would tell you that she told me she was sorry. I never received a heartfelt apology or any kind of acknowledgement of what I went through as a kid. The best I received was about fifteen years ago when I started therapy, I asked her to email or send cards of support with any good memories from before I was five years old. She said, "That was a really difficult time." That's it. What she likes to say is, "You kids turned out pretty good I must not have done that bad." My brother's an alcoholic and was told in his early thirties that his liver was so bad that he didn't have much chance and didn't qualify for transplant because he wouldn't stop drinking, my sister is a psycho manipulating b**ch, and I, well let's just say I have a lot of anger issues with obsessive compulsive tendencies.<br /><br />Daughters can be forgiving if you say it from your heart and show them you love them now. Being in the moment is all you can do. For me I would have been happy if she could have just excepted/respected my boundaries. She never could no matter what or how I told her. (and she isn't an alcoholic just co-dependent/victim/emotional abuser)<br /><br />Peace,<br />MorganMorgan Dragonwillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147836851533669779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-14929480535942239512011-09-29T17:28:23.055-07:002011-09-29T17:28:23.055-07:00Hey Rumpy Dog.. Thank you for commenting. I have ...Hey Rumpy Dog.. Thank you for commenting. I have made my verbal amends to my daughter.. and I am the best mother I can be every day. I learned that she needs a mother, not a friend. She has plenty of friends. <br /><br />I am sorry that your parents put you through hell. My parents did the same to me, and I still haven't gotten an amends either. Which is probably why I made one to my kids as soon as the time was right. <br /><br />Take care of yourself. <br /><br />DarleneDarlene Steelman McGarrityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14276345723955344662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-499631911316819540.post-33146880091071565412011-09-29T16:59:44.097-07:002011-09-29T16:59:44.097-07:00Congratulations on getting sober and staying sober...Congratulations on getting sober and staying sober. As for the kids, I can tell you that despite all the hell my parents put me through when I was a kid, the only thing I want from them now is for them to say "I'm sorry." Neither one has. Amends are powerful things for both. Keep making yours every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com